Thanks everyone for so many replies, I had drafted a reply myself earlier but it got somehow lost. I will try to remember what I said:
1. Solar is definitely interesting but I want to get a somewhat working setup going before Christmas. With fixing solar to the roof, placing the roof gland, laying cables and what not that the alternator charging is something I can get something going faster.
2. Based on previous vacations I know that we seldomly stay in one place for a few days. When we do we still do day trips with the vehicle. So this is why I believe that the alternator heavy and first) strategy suits us. Maybe I need to think about a bigger battery then, to have a bigger buffer.
3. Regarding smart alternators, VSRs and DCDC chargers: I will check the alternator for its "smartness" and its nominal output. I understand that the numbers of nominal Amp output can probably not be sustained over a longer time without damaging it. I think I was initially under the impression that I needed a DC-DC charger to "protect" or rather properly charge the battery.
4. Regarding AGM and Lithium: I wanted to go with Lithium because of lower weight (remember it's a Hiace). I was also a bit surprised about the fact that you should not discharge AGMs below 50% and that they don't charge as fast.
5. I am after a system that is robust and that I do not have to tinker with and that I can trust is doing the right thing and is not damaging my vehicle (or more specifically the alternator) or the battery.
After only one thread I have noticed the different camps in this forum

. Stay kind to each other!
Ok after all your input I am currently thinking this:
I believe that I will still go with a DCDC charger to limit the load on the alternator and I will choose the charger based on the available amps in the alternator with a big safety margin. The Renogy devices still look good to me.
I am considering getting a bigger battery, would the 100Ah/200Ah Sunnytechs (
http://sunnytech.co.nz/product/12v-200a ... 4-battery/) play nicely with the Renogy? Do people have experience with that combination?
Do I need a separate low-voltage protection for the battery? The product page says "BMS Discharge cut off 9.2V". Is this ok to protect from over-discharge?